Hi John—Thanks for the sentiments. My thoughts are with you as well. †I am glad Kimberly is with you. †The comfort of family and friends is very helpful at times like these. †See you before long—courage, - Andy D.
John: Please know how very much Jim and I are with you and the family. We really appreciate you keeping us informed. I spoke with Kris the other night and she filled me in as things stood then. Take very special care! - Meg F.
Thanks for sharing this with us, John. I hope that your children as well as all the family are finding comfort in their memories of the good times. Take care, - Ralph Rayburn
I feel terrible about Diane's death. ……... Sunday was an awful day. My cousin Betsey's (Thurley's youngest) husband (62 yrs old) fell off his bike & died of head injuries even though he was wearing a helmet. They don't know if he just fell or if his bike was hit by a car. - Nancy H.
John, I’m very sorry to hear that. †I hope you and the kids can manage. Andy's step mom just passed away and Andy is in PHX dealing with the arrangements. - Dirk D.
Oh John, I'm terribly sorry! Please accept all our condolences and sympathies to you and your children. Please, if there is anything we can do, we will. Warmest wishes,- Tina F.
Dear John (and Kris), Ralph sent your email about the sudden accident and loss of Diane yesterday. †What an unexpected tragedy for Susan, John and you and all the family. †I am so sorry. It is so shocking and overwhelming at first to have to deal with unexpected death. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. We Love You All, - Elaine R.
John: sorry to hear such bad news.... - Jim A.
John: News spreads fast and I am deeply saddened by the tragic death of your ex wife. May God bless you and your family. - Jan C.
John: Just checking in; I am so saddened by your news.† Our heartfelt sympathy to you and your family; you all have certainly had more than your share of challenges.† My vision of Diane is her gentle smile and friendly way.....I see her 'walking to class holding her books' and like Steve I can certainly remember her days wearing that bandana.... I am having a difficult time accepting such a tragic loss; and, yes, life is so fragile.† Our deepest sympathy, - Carolyn
John and Family, What a tragedy. My sympathies to everyone, especially your children. Regards, - Frank T.
John, Very sorry to hear about what happened to Diane. She was a good friend as all my classmates are. God Bless. - Paul D.
Susan, You may or may not remember me. We spent long hours playing Masterpiece, Life and other games as kids while our parents socialized. I just heard about your loss and I wanted to say how sorry I am. I lost my remaining three grandparents in the last 18 months and am coming to realize that this is the next stage of life for our generation. Not knowing if is welcome or not, I wanted pass on two pieces of infomation.
The first is that three of my four children were too young to remember my mother-in-law after she died, also too young, 14 years ago. Indeed, my daughter wasn't to come for several years afterward. While there is nothing I know to say about your loss now, I can tell you that my wife has taken great comfort and pleasure in remembering her mother to our children. For those of us not destined for the history textbooks, family memories, told by those who knew and loved us, is a beautiful route to immortality.
The second is a personal note. I have been told that you are facing challenges of your own. Since all I know is second-hand at best, I wouldn't presume to speak about your circumstances. Regardless, I thought I should tell you that you have made a lasting impression on the world. At least on my part of it. You were the prettiest girl I knew for a long time in my life (I'm sure you still rank, it's just my memory that is fuzzy!). However, it is not just your appearance that keeps you in my memory.
You were the one in my life that taught me that girls/women were not just the attractive but unattainable alien creatures that testosterone, beer ads and television programs portrayed. How did you, a single pubescent girl, cut a path through the haze of nature and nurture without even knowing it? Well, I didn't realize it for some years, but a single time together has stayed with me my entire life while almost everything else in my childhood has dropped into a fog. One day, at your house, you were very excited to show me a part of a book you were reading that you thought was just hilarious. The book was Jaws and you cracked up every time you read the start of one chapter that described how interminably the boat captain peed in the morning. So, to sum it up, you taught me that girls were people because you were just as facinated by gross bodily functions as any of my male friends. I realized this while talking to one of my boys about girls and passing on all 2-3 minutes of precious wisdom I could get him to sit still for.
Why, you might ask, did I want to tell you this? The answer is simple. All of us, your mother, you, possibly even me, have touched the people around us. Though often in ways we don't know, we are all memorable and will be around forever. Sincerely, - John A.
Dear John, I was shocked and saddened to read about Diane's death. I vividly remember the effect her riding accident had on our class at Center School. She certainly had more than her share of tough times, and now this. What a shame! My thoughts are with you and your children. I am an EMT on our town's volunteer ambulance corps, and my thoughts are also with the people who responded to the accident. Mainly, however, my thoughts are with your children. It's so painful to lose one's mother at any age, and so tragic to have it happen at such young ages. It hurts all of us to see that a classmate has died; it hurts the "kids" from Mattapoisett even more, but that is nothing compared to what your children are going through. - Barbara G. K.
John, Very sorry to hear the news. Our thougths are with you and her family...especially Sue and John. - Dan F.
Hi John, Thanks for letting us know. We're very sorry for your loss. Chuck and Cindy A.
John, I'm sorry to hear that news. - Alden T.
John, If there is anything Geri and I can do to be of assistance, please let me know. Emory A.
John: My very sincere condolences. Please attend to the more important matters at hand ……... Again, I'm very sorry to hear about this tragic news. - Mark C.
Hello, John. Thanks for sharing this with us. It is always hard to deal with tragedy. I hope that John and Susan are holding up okay. Am sure your being there will help. You are again in our thoughts and prayers. - Ralph & Elaine R.
John, I'm sorry. I just read about the accident in today's paper. †The location is only about 5 or 6 miles from our house. There have been a rash of fatal car accidents on the Cape recently. - Emory A.
John: I am so upset to receive this news. Am sure John and Susan are very saddened. Me, too, though I did not know her. Please know that we are with you in this tragic loss. Love, - Meg F.
Dear John, Thanks for letting me know. I am so sorry for you/your family's loss. Very tragic. How is Susan doing? John, too, of course. Because of Susan's on-going battle, I am especially concerned for her!love, - Kay H.
John, Really sorry to hear this - hang in there and know our thoughts and prayers are with you. - Mike B.
Such sad news. I had Diane on my birthday list, sending messages via the shop at Plimouth Plantation. Peg and I visited the plantation last summer and had a chance to chat with her for a while. I cry whenever I have to scratch a name from my list. - Charlie C.
My condolences on your family’s loss. - Don W.
John & Kris, I tried to call, but of course your phone was busy. †PLEASE let me know if there is ANY thing I can do to help. - Joanne L.
John, Let us know if there is anything we can do to help. - Steven and Joanne L.
John, your news is shocking and my sympathy is with you all, especially for Susan who has had so much to deal with already. My wish is that knowing that friends care how your lives are affected may be of some help to coping with your collective loss. - Jack S.
John,† Of course,my prayers are added to the others. Whenever I think of Diane, I picture her with a red bandana on her head from the horseback riding accident she had that caused her head injury. It's funny the things one remembers (but I can't remember what I had for breakfast !!!!!). - Steve M.
John, I'm so sorry to hear the tragic news. †Please know that Brig and I are thinking of you and your children. If there is anything we can possibly do, let us know. - Shelly E.
God John, What a horrible tragedy-- We're so sorry--especially since Diane was keeping an eye on Susan. †Our thoughts &prayers are with you. †Hang in there. Love, - Jane & Mike B.
John, From my family to yours, our sincere condolences. That really sucks. - John H.
John. Please express our concern and expression of sympathy to your family. There are no words of comfort that we can offer that will make this tragedy make any sense. Prayers are being offered by Blanca and me. Please pass our condolences to Susan and Johnny and also to you who have lost a loved one. - John and Blanca H.
Sorry to hear about this, John. †You, John and Susan will be in our thoughts and prayers. - Jim and Joyce H.
What a shock - talked to both Colleen and Mike (their mother had informed them), also called Edna (she and Randy are down here in Naples - they look like they will be buying a place here for the winters) as I know her E-mail is not all that reliable where they are staying. How are the kids doing - have not heard about Susan lately (does she still have the blog)? Send our condolences to the kids - have fond memories of our times together in what seems like another life time.
John, our thoughts and prayers to your family.† Life is so fragile. - Maureen C.
John, Please extend my condolences to your family. Diane was a good friend. She'll be missed. - Nancy (H.)
John, What a shock!! We are saddened by Diane's tragic accident. We never know what is around the corner. As you know I knew Diane form Center School days and was very surprised to see her on a visit to Plymouth Plantation years ago. † Please extend our sympathy to the children. - Cuffy and Linda T.
Hi John, My prayers are with you and your children at this difficult time. I have good memories of Diane. - Vicki P. P. G.
John, I'm so very sorry to hear about Diane.† Please send our collective love and support to your son and daughter. † - Beverly S.
John,†Our condolences to your family. It's always sad news to hear of another member of our class passing away so young. - Jerry & Vidahlia F.
John, Kimberly called just after I rolled out of Charley Horse, looking for you. I told her you would be home very soon. She told me that Diane was killed in a car accident. We are so sorry for everyone involve and please let me know how I can help logistically or any other way. - John H.
Oh Sue, I am so sorry. I don't even know what to say. You know your friends are there for you whenever you need us. Anything I can do to help please call me ok? It is strange the bond we have. Yesterday would have been my Sister's 52nd birthday. Hugs to you. I miss talking to you too... I hope all is getting better with your health. - Debbie S.
Oh my God, Sue!! I don't know what to say except I'm so very, very terribly sorry! My heart goes out to you and your family at this very sad time. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sure she received a wonderful greeting at The Rainbow Bridge. May the heather and shamrocks fall ever so gently... With my very deepest sympathy, - Karol P.
I just leaned of your mother's passing. So very sorry Sue. - David N.
This is just awful ... Many prayers and condolences from North Carolina and the Tarheel Setter crew. - Lori B.
Sue, I heard. Words fail. I can feel your pain and loss. Your in my thoughts and prayers. - Love, Alden T.
Oh my...how awful...my sincere condolences to you Sue...I hope you have the strength... - Denise S.
So very sorry for your loss. What a tragedy. - Colleen O.
What an awful tradgety. Condolences and zen to Sue & her family. - Karen G.
Oh, my gosh, how awful! My deepest sympathy. - Jani W.
Sue, I just read the post on Setters-l about your mom's tragic accident. I am so sorry about your loss. My deepest sympathy is with you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you. - Elaine W.
Sue, Like so many Setters-L friends, I've just seen the sad news. My heartfelt sympathy for your tragic loss. You and your family are in my thoughts, and have my prayers. - Neva G.
Sue, you are in our thoughts. - Sincerly, Ken & Barbara B.
Sue: I was saddened to read of the tragic passing of your mother on setters-l. My thoughts are with you and your family. - Rhonda D.
Hi Sue, You know how much I dislike this e-mail, but in this case I'll use it. Denny and I were both shocked and saddened when Iris told us about your mother's tragic accident and death. We would like to express our deepest sympathies and warm regards to you and all your family. We also hope that your health improves and this tragedy doesn't adversely affect you. We would come to the visiting hours and the service, but they coincide with Denny's mother's visiting hours and service. Denny's mother passed away Tuesday morning from congestive heart failure, it was not unexpected. Feel free to call if you desire, we wish you all the best. - Denny and Larry
Dear Sue, I am so sorry to hear of your mother's sudden passing. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. - Karen, from California
Dear Susan, Please accept our sincere sympathy for your mom's loss. Love, -Chuck and Cindy A.
Dear Sue....We are so sorry to hear this news.....Our heartfelt sympathies are with you at this very painful time. Losing our mothers has got to be the biggest loss we have to bear. Loving thoughts and prayers to you and your family. - Susan & Tom D.
Dearest Sue - How tragic for you to lose your mom. Life is so fleeting....who would ever have thought that one minute you'd be speaking with her and poof, the next she's gone. You have my sincere sympathy at her passing. Words that I say cannot bring her back, but you have the gift of her memory and the fun times you shared. She was with you during your illness, and she'll be with you now, too. I lost some dear friends in 1996 who were killed in a semi/car accident. Tom and Sharon and their two kids were killed. I still think of them....and as we all travel and commute, the reality of it is that it makes us more at risk to have an accident on the road......Please....grieve and please cry and please remember the good things your mom taught you. You're in my thoughts - With sympathy - Peggy D.
Our most sincere condolences on the tragic loss of your mother. You are in our thoughts. - Andy & Kay
Hi Sue, So terribly sorry about your mom. That was just wrong and I feel your loss deeply. On the other side of this tragedy, I want to hear all about you and your health. - Love, Us
Sue, I am so sorry that this has happened to you. What a nightmare and such inexcusable actions by the driver who rearended your Mom. I am so sorry. - Vicki
Oh Sue, I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is never easy but losing so unexpected and for such a horrible reason makes it even harder. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. - Cil C. PS I tried to leave the message on your blog but I didn't have an account. Again,,,I am sooo sorry!
You have every right to be angry. I hope they throw the keys away on his cell. What a tragedy that your family has to suffer such a loss. I am really sorry for your loss. - Denise K.
Dear Sue, I feel so ashamed that I didn't send a card. I've been in touch with Karol to see how you have been as I just don't know how you would have been able to handle such a tragedy when you have your ongoing health issues. Please know that you are in my thoughts frequently. Much love to you.... - Kristi B.
Hi Sue Iris told me of your mothers passing, but didn't elaborate on the cause. Katie and I send you our profound and deepest condolences. I'm so outraged to hear of this and you're so right about the laws being so lenient, he should have been charged with Murder. - Larry P.
I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. IF A PETITION GETS STARTED TO ADDRESS THIS ISSUE W/ THE MASSACHUSETTS LEGISLATURE, I WILL SIGN AND HELP IN ANY WAY. THE LAW MUST CHANGE AND THE ABUSE & KILLING MUST BE STOPPED. YOUR MOM IS FREE NOW OF EARTHLY BONDS, JUST AS MY MOM IS ALSO. I DEAL W/ THE LOSS BETTER IMAGINING HER IN A BETTER PLACE LOOKING DOWN ON ME, SENDING ME LOVE, WISHING THAT I NOT GRIEVE LONG FOR IT PAINS HER, AND SMILING AT ME AS I GO ON W/ LIFE THANKING HER FOR HER GIFTS, WORDS OF WISDOM, FAMILY TRADITIONS & SECRET RECIPES, AND HER KINDNESS.....& HER OVERWHELMING LOVE. PEACE BE W/ YOU THROUGH THIS TRAGEDY, - LIZ L.
Sue - we don't know one another, but I have had Gordons for years and saw on the Yahoo group about your mom. Please accept our sincere sympathy. Please treasure the wonderful memories you have of your mom, and your time together. - Marcia and Steve B.
Sue - I am so sorry about your mother - it is a very difficult thing to go through, I lost mine to disease seven years ago. Unfortunately, the DUI laws are as impaired as the people they are meant to ensnare - we take the offender's license away, but you are right, they don't care about the value of a human life, and they drive anyway. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this most difficult time - I do also hope that your health issues are resolving and you are on the road to recovery. - Lisa S.
Sue, That is so sad and such a quick loss . No time to prepare or say goodbye. Special Prayers are sent your way. - Lola G.
Truly sorry to hear of your tragic loss, Sue. There is no question that there are holes in our justice system that can allow such travesties to continue to occur.... I sincerely hope that someone will wake up and stop this man from ruining more innocent lives. - Dawn M.
I cannot even begin to express how awful I think that law- or lack thereof- is, Sue. I am terribly sorry for your family's loss. Bless you. - Chris H.
Dear Sue, I was so sorry to hear about your Mother's death. How horrible it was for all of you. My sincere sympathies for you and your family. - Betty B.
Oh my god, Sue--I hadn't heard! Our thoughts and prayers are with you!!! Let's get that "man" in jail soon! - Ellen S.
Sue, I'm so sorry you lost your mother in such a tragic way. I'm not sure one can ever understand something so senseless. I can't imagine how one begins to deal with a loss like that. Besides the actual loss, there must be so much anger at the irresponsible idiot and the lack of justice that could have prevented it. And then to know that someone who shows such disregard for his actions and for others lives could be out so soon. I'm sharing a wee bit of your outrage! And in the end, with whatever "justice" you achieve, your mother is still gone. I hope you can stay strong. You have a lot to deal with. My thoughts are with you. - Carol A.
Oh Sue. I am so sad for this tragedy, and so mad at this man and the system that allowed him to still be on the road to even hit your Mom. Sending your prayers of comfort. Take care. In HIS Love, - Lori B.
You have my heartfelt Sympathy on the loss of your Mother in that awful accident. It seems everyday you read about drunk drivers with several convictions. My Prayers are wihou and your Family. - Diana H.
Sue, somehow, I am sorry just doesn't seem like enough. I can't begin to understand your anguish and outrage at this..... Maybe, just maybe, your Mom's death will result in changes tot eh laws. - Pam L.
I went and read the article. That is simply horrible. How in the world do they allow people to not only be free but drive ever again!!! How is it he can take lives and be out free to do this again in 2.5 yrs. I am so sorry for your loss and just don't know how I would deal with it. However, being a Hurricane Katrina survivor you have to reach deep inside and find the strength. I feel I would launch a campaign to see this person never sees freedom again. Sincerely, Sue K.
You've been through so much, now this. I can't believe the laws in MA about this guy (or any one with his record). I'm sure back in NYS - this would be a big matter - it's hard to believe that he could only get 5 years and be eligible for parole in 2 1/2 years! Unbelievable. . . . . .laws should be changed! It seems that some laws in this state are very hard, and others. . . . . . I wish you and your family luck! Even if you can get the laws changed, it won't be in time to put him away for good. That's the sad part of the whole thing. . . . .a slap on the wrist is just not good enough. - Betty B.
Sue, My deepest sympathy in the loss of your Mom, Thanks for the link and the details, this is another outrage and another needless death. The laws and enforcement need to change for sure, funny that you emailed me as you have been on my mind lately... - Jane P.
Sue, We are so sorry to hear about this awful tragedy with your mother. Your letter to Governor Patrick was strong and moving- there is no reason why someone like that is still allowed to drive or be out on the street. We know that the past year has been very difficult for you and we keep you in our thoughts. Sincerely, - Marina and Gene
Thanks for the information Iris. It is so tragic, yet people like this keep getting off and driving again. Please let Sue know that my deepest sympathies are with her and her family.! I hope that there is a response to her letter from someone in the government offices?! Regards, - Billie T.
Sue, You may also want to Google SCOTT GARDNER ACT being proposed by our US Rep Sue Myrick. Scott Gardner was a much beloved school teacher and father of young children who was killed by a Drunk Illegal who had been convicted of numerous (I think 4-5) DWI's.... before he hit and killed Scott, and his wife is in a nursing home in a coma/stupor and brain damaged. Anyway, do you believe that DWI conviction are NOT a Deportable Offense for ILLEGAL aliens. I love my Mexican friends, but if you are here illegally that should be deportable, and if you are here committing criminal acts then you need to go to jail BACK IN YOUR COUNTRY. Anyway, it's a big deal here in NC and you may want to contact Sue for help. I have met her, and she is a very good person. She is a breast cancer survivor who really cares about the people she serves and does a fabulous job! Take care, and again my prayers are with you....- Lori B.
Hi, I'm so sorry all this has happened to you- it seems you're due for a turn in lick. I'll keep you & your family in my prayers. - Eileen w/o Jack
BEST of luck to you. - Chris
Sue, I'm so sorry about your mother's death. You are in my thoughts and prayers. - Laura C.
Dear Sue, I am so sorry for the horrendous agony you are going through. Praying for you in all your grief and injustice that led to your dear mother's untimely death. - Karen A.
Sue, what a horrific time you've had. I'm so sorry about your losses. I don't know what else to say. I hope you can find some peace. Take care. - Kay
Sue, I'm so so sad for you. Blow after blow. One step at a time, Sue, one step at a time. And yes, it is wonderful that you and your mom had that 6 weeks that you can look back on now and cherish. Amazing that you are able to recognize this goodness in your life, given the continuous blows you have had to absorb. best, - Karlie A.
Sue: I wanted to convey mine and Frank's deepest sympathy. Sorry we couldn't make the services we were quite out of commission. I know the loss you are feeling and my heart goes out to you. I know I lost my best friend and things will never be the same, but in the same token time does heal things a bit. If there is anything I can do, please let me know. With Deepest Sympathy Love - Jane L.
Sue- what a terrible terrible tragedy. I hadn't seen/heard anything about this. I am so sorry for your loss. - Paulette P.
Susan, This guy was convicted of "Murder" not driving under the influence, or involuntary manslaughter, but Murder. Its law enforcement agencies and the courts that are the one those are responsible for the needless slaughter on our highways. The below links are for the first person that was convicted for Murder because of intent. http://www.newsday.com/news/local/longisland/ny-lilimo1017,0,2763042.story?coll=ny-linews-headlines - Larry P.
Unbelievable! How many more people have to be injured or killed before something is done....I cannot believe this man isn't in jail permanently. I'm so sorry for your loss. - Patti N.
Sue, Justice for Diane!! That is just so wonderful; good for you, it's a good thing you are doing...a daughter losing a mom tears apart a very special bond if the bonding has been good like it was with your mom and you; my mom died 7 years ago and I miss her so, a part of me is always lonely, but I'm ever so glad I had her for my mom..with the love comes pain with loss...you have suffered just incredible losses..don't we love our pets so much...we have two little dogs and they are our babies...after my last dog died, I swore I'd never get another dog, hurts too much, but then, Jason, my son with brain/spine tumors, 35 years old, wanted a dog (for me, he said) so now we have two...I'm prepared for the pain of loss even as they bring us so much smiles and love..well, I am rambling here now and I'm sorry, just wanted to say good for you, for Justice for Diane, and hang in there sweetie...faith t.
Compiled from email messages recieved by John T. Everett and Susan E. Linhares